I have 30.00 to my name and I need that for gas, forget about buying food so I will only eat when I have to for the next week, have food stamps but it was only 100.00 a month due to unemployment and now I faxed in all the info but no money will be added till march 1. Missed a party for my friends anniversary it was a surprise and I made up an excuse why I could not go. Tomorrow is my cousins baby's 1st birthday and i am not gong to that either. When they got married i could not give a gift now I cant give a gift again I rather skip it. I am embarrassed that my life is like this, at my age I should be able to support myself and go to events and be with people instead of being alone. Hate my life and wish it would get better its not like I dont try. thanks for letting me vent Again
Out of work 9 months, used to make a great living and was ashamed to even get food stamps which I did 3 months ago and only qualified for 100.00 a month which is nothing I am inNY
My gym is paid thru September so I do go and exercise 3-4 times a week but lately I dont even want to do that
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Broke and Depressed will I ever be happy again?
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Have you considered getting a part-time job? That could help. Even going for something like McDonalds would get you about 500 pounds a month. Is there a disability in the way that is not letting you work?
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Hey there. I can relate. It is so hard when things like social events and interacting with our loved ones and friends gets affected by our financial situation. Your question is "will I ever be happy again?" Well you know that the best. Happiness is going to take a lot of work especially if it relies on your ability to live a life of financial security so you can do these things. I think if you can find the things that keep you happy while you are in this situation, you will be building character that will help maintain the foundation for your self to have the confidence to get through life without needing the luxuries most people are slaves to. Its hard regardless and I wish you the best. You are not alone
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Sound s like you need a career change and some friends and family around that can help you get back on your feet. Keep trying, and go to a food pantry to get some food to last you for the rest of the month. Get on line everyday until you find some kind of work. If you live in the city collection agencies are always hiring, and it is decent pay. Good luck to you and God Bless
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sucks for you
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Only you can take positive steps to improve how you feel and how you change your current situation. There is always hope. Educating yourself on ways to cope would be a start. Exercising everyday for one hour will eliminate even the most clinical depressions. Make a decision to change your life, by setting goals, big ones, and get out of the house and meet as many people face to face to improve your positioning. It starts with you, keep moving, don't allow yourself to be around negative people or situations. There is a Code for Success and it's a simple one, be unstoppable and keep moving.
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A previous answer follows, modified for you. "You are not your job" is addressed in "Feeling Good - the new mood therapy" by David D. Burns, M.D., from your bookstore, or Amazon.com. Your library may have it, or his earlier books. Some others: Workplace Recipes: Coping with Unemployment and the Job You Hate by Joy Mouton (paperback), & Coping With Unemployment: 1993 by Brian Jud and Charles Lipka (paperback), & Everything Will Be All Right by Douglas Wallace (Kindle). Effective, non medication based depression treatments, many of which are free, or low cost, are at http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/1.html and page B. Dress for the type of position applying for, and don't appear overqualified. Consider volunteering, even from home, at first, as shown in page B, which will act as occupational therapy, help boost self esteem, keep activity out of undesirable parts of the brain, help others, and provide you with something to tell prospective employers about your activities since becoming unemployed. Don't be too picky about the type of job; employers prefer someone already employed (or volunteering). Keep in mind that the economy is in the process of turning around, at present, and employers will soon be hiring again in larger numbers, but at present, there can be many applications for any given vacancy. Approach local businesses, restaurants, fast food places, hotels/motels, supermarkets, gas/petrol stations, etc. and leave your contact details, even if just jotted down on a piece of cardboard. Such places are always hiring. Remain resolutely optimistic, and maintain a positive mental attitude. Use the TECHNIQUE FOR COMBATING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, on page B, as necessary. A useful counterthought is: "Things will get better soon". Or make up your own. Repeat if necessary. Contact your county/local mental health agency, to see what help they can provide. Sliding scale based psychological counselling is often available from Catholic counselling, the Methodist church, or Unitarian Universalists, and sometimes the United Way. You don't have to be a member. Google: "clinics; mhmr; (your location)" & "free clinics; (your location)" Also contact your local department of human services and apply for state health care.
See http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/21/health/21patient.html?_r=2 Talk with a social worker, via your local free clinic, (Google: "free clinic; [your location] ) or public hospital. Local is best, or (202) 408 8600. They often have useful advice, and contacts. Have a list of questions prepared, and jot down answers. Food stamps: http://www.fns.usda.gov/fsp Phone: 1800 221 5689. Check out http://www.socialsecurity.gov Dept. of Children and Families. Enquire about Medicaid Insurance. Other advice that I am aware of is to contact your local social services department and apply for state medicaid, then find a doctor who accepts it. See http://www.walmart.com/catalog/catalog.g… for generic mental health medication, at $4/month's supply, or $10/90 days; (more in CA., and 8 other US states) also try calling Target pharmaceuticals. View www.pparx.org/ and call 1-888-4PP-ANOW (1-888-477-2669), if financially disadvantaged in the USA, and seeking a bipolar medication subsidy. Also see www.needymeds.com/ & www.low-cost-rx.com/ Some pharmaceutical companies will provide medications free, or at reduced cost, depending on the circumstances of the applicant; qualification guidelines vary. Practice a relaxation method, daily, and when needed, such as: (free) http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-stress.html or http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody/a/Meditation.htm or http://www.wikihow.com/Meditate or Yoga Nidra, (a series of easy mental exercises only; no flexibility required) at http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/l.html Tai Chi, regular yoga, or Qi Gong, suits others better. They will enable you to emotionally centre yourself, when practiced regularly, and can also help you become a more self directed and controlled person, who is less influenced by the behaviour of others. Use them when needed to get through life's bad patches, as they will enable you to attain a way of being; awareness, without suffering, whenever you need it, and it is a valuable life skill and well worth acquiring.
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Chronic adversity can break the strongest people. First thing you need to do is seek counseling through your local mental health department, hospital, or through nami.org. They have countless resources for mental health support in your area. Also contact local universities with medical schools associated with them. Many have support groups that are free. Taking care of your mental health is just as important as tending to physical health. It is not up to strangers to make you feel better. It is up to you.
There are many people in you circumstances having to make difficult choices and give up the lifestyle they had been accustomed to. I am sure your friends and family would surprise you by being understanding of your ongoing situation and gladly invite you to their parties without expecting gifts. Offer to help out with preparations and clean-up. Anyone hosting a party appreciates that.
Living in negativity feeds upon itself. It can make getting a job difficult as it shows in ways you may not anticipate. Your expressions, body language, voice, intonations, etc... Work on healing the depression and frustration you are harboring. Venting, may feel better for the moment, but it allows you to continue wallowing in a sea of self pity. Hiring managers can see right through this. They are out to hire the best people, not solve people's problems. I know it sounds cold, but there is so much competition out there those who are not positive and on top of their game will get overlooked.
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You know I hear a lot of people give advices where you got to "switch" plans. As such, there is really no reason for these things. I mean you're an honest person, and it's totally unfair that you have to go through this.
To be honest, I feel the same way you do right now, although the reason I feel this way isn't because of a lost job.
I wish I could give you something, but all I can give you is that you just have to hang in there. Sure it's embarrassing, and you're always thinking, "At my age." I mean heck, I do that, for totally different reasons. So your thought process is like that only because things aren't going the way you're expecting them to go and you start doing all sorts of "calculations" inside that head.
All I can say is that you just have to keep moving. I mean time is going to move forward and as such, something is bound to happen sooner.
Like take today. I was driving in my car looking for this place. My GPS said "Turn right." But I couldn't because it was blocked with construction and a huge sign saying "Road Close." I panicked for a second, driving up some thinking, "Now I don't know where the place I have to go is." As I took the next closest route, a funny thing happened, I drove right into the place I needed to get to.
So just think of it like that. One day you're going to think you're going to go some path, then sure enough something is going to cause you to go to the place you really need by going through a road that you won't expect to bring you to your destination.
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