I used to make a Good living then lost my job and 9 months later and my unemployment ending I am broke. Did move when I lost my job to a cheaper apt and my landlord is so much nicer. I felt like I was becoming more humble thinking I dont need as much going to church more etc. However a priest at my church really upset me when I asked for a little assistance this month to pay my Geico bill and told me to sell my car. I was a Travel Agent and just started to do that a little on the side -figured it would be a good side job-was a corporate agent and have a client who I have known for 17years who maybe able to get me his entire company which would give me an income of about 45K per year. I feel like with me wanting to make money makes me a better person where as the church feels I an educated woman who is used to making that type of money should work in Mcdonalds, I have applied to some retail stores but no one has called. I feel like becoming religious has hurt me , I believe in God and pray and Thank him when something happens all the time. I do feel as if the Church was trying to change me, I am in my late 30's and dont want to change if that makes sense. Only thing is I would save more if I ever get a decent job again.just want thoughts not nasty answers.
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Posted 2 years ago #
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Im not religious, but if you're thanking god for things that go right in your life, then he is the one controlling what good happens. So why would he not want you to get a better job, and feel satisfied with what you do? Why should he be cruel to you? Why does the church think you should work in Mcdonalds? If you are educated then you should go for what you want. If you are a Catholic, then the priests may feel threatened by your intelligence. Priests always like to be in control and tell you what to do. Maybe they think that you are religious, so you have nothing better to rely on than god; which i'm sure is not the case. It may just be the community you live amongst, but I feel that you should do what you want, as I'm sure God would want you to be the best person you can, and do the most that you are able to do to fulfill your aspirations. :) x good luck!
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The church is not God, and God is not necessarily the church. I get your point, for I was in the same predicament 2-years ago, with 8-bank loans to pay (4 are with PDCs), 3-kids to support, no permanent job, just buying/selling biscuits and doing tutorials for 1-year. But what happened was, I get more to appreciate my faith, my church. I did not go asking for support to our priest, nor to ask friends to help me get a job, because I don't want to impose. I did asked my sister to help me, and now I'm getting constant nagging from her for she is now in the same predicament that I was before.
I'm 37 when my problem started, hard to find a job in the Philippines with that age, even with a good work background.
Just stay put with your faith to God, not to men, for men would sin, God wouldn't.
I always think: GOD WOULD NOT LEAVE ME IF HE HAD PUT ME THIS FAR.Posted 2 years ago # -
Just because someone is in a position of authority - such as a priest, doctor, teacher, etc - does not guarantee that they have all of the answers. In this case he may have been trying to get you to look at things from a new perspective, or he may have believed completely that his input was correct. Like anyone else, his outlook is affected by his own past experiences and his advice may be based on that.
In my opinion - when you ask for assistance from someone, you are giving them permission to give their personal advice. What you do with that advice is up to you.
Take care.
Posted 2 years ago # -
I think your priest may have been suffering from trying to spread the money around to so many people that he gave you some rather poor advice. In these times everyone seems to be in dire need for help and he can only spread his money so far.
Its possible that donations to his church are way down and he is simpling trying to get people to liquidate everything they have before giving then assistance.
Please continue to believe in God and prayer, do not let this side track you from a religion that you have loved in the past.
Good luck to you in your job search, bad times can not last forever.
Posted 2 years ago # -
Churches are systems of people, not systems of gods. A key fact about people is that they are quick to judge, quick to make harsh comments, and quick to do hurtful things even when it is the best of intentions. You found that out when you asked them to assist in payments of your car bill. They have told you, "Hey, just sell your car." Which sounds harsh and against what they might have said earlier in their sermons. They didn't say that to hurt you; they said it because he wanted to help you in every way except pulling out his wallet.
Churches are BIG on money. As a matter of fact most churches gain money from three ways: offerings/donations, daycares/schools/preschools, and finally through selling bogus things like a 1500 dollars vacuum cleaner. Look at many "rich" and "famous" church priests like Jerry Falwell, Pat Robertson, and many other people like him. They got national, rich, and living a life of luxury solely from people like you and me and everyone else who decides to go to church and donate money. I mean some of these people never even saw a job; they just started preaching and people followed and gave money.
Of course you can look at it like a blessing, but just remember, they NEVER give any of their money and everything they did with it is to further their own propaganda and money reaching capabilities.
I know you're going through hard times and I sound a bit harsh up there, but at times when you are down and weak, people will take advantage of you. Do not go to a church and trust someone who is in a position to abuse you. I recommend talking with the people who go there, not the people who stays there. They are far more willing to understand where you're coming from and what sort of position you're in. Like take this one fellow I knew who took in a homeless man simply because he was in a drag and he felt him. Or take that recent movie about that football player who go to where he was simply due to some family deciding to take him into their home. I even bought this one fellow a bus pass after overhearing how he didn't have a car and couldn't pay the bus fair.
So just remember, you have to find people who know who you are and what position you're in. You can't judge someone unless you walked a mile in their shoes, and no priest did that here in the states.
Posted 2 years ago # -
what is paramount is to choose your healing route------ carefully-- be really aware that the druggs/meds treatment for this can be damaging to you and go on for years with no improvement and massive damaging detrimental side effects to you from meds .
Do read this very carefully.
Evaluate all of this info well –it will save ---years of suffering = if you apply it ..
All treatment recommended by the doctors should be tested and approved and quite rightly so.
That makes sense right
Now then .it costs millions of pounds to test and approve treatments because of the possible damage to people..Drug companies Fund most testing and will only and I mean only look at treatments, which show the promise of good deal of a profit, --they will actively dismiss any therapy which does not have profit potential— thus your doctor will only recommend therapies that have been tested with profit potential in them.
Despite The fact that some of these other therapies mentioned here do have overwhelming benefits some, which have saved needless amputations, needless pain and trauma, and much loss of life.
Drugs are not the answer for depression with mind altering damaging chemicals or any other mental illness.
This is a fundamental principle try you grasp this fully –
This does not help you though when you are ill and suffering—not hearing about therapies which can help from a person you look up to and trust
Have you heard your local doctor recommend, Massage Spiritual healing, Herbs, Light therapy, Colour therapy, the violet ray therapy, Osteopathy, Electrical Frequency devices. Karma therapy
These therapies will work for many complaints of a so called mental nature
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Each of these therapies can have a very beneficial influence on you.
Print this all off save it and enact it and share it --- of course someone to help you get these therapies in your life is invaluable but do not be swayed by anyone trying for short cuts …
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1,get someone to massage your back and legs at least 3 times a week use peanut oil or a mix of 50-50 olive and peanut oil.2 use the violet ray machine an Edgar Cayce device google search this --- 3 times a week on the other days especially on the spine….we use it every day with very positive results
3.get a tent sleep out side 3times a week utilising earth energy - nature can help big time especially with how you feel how much energy you have
4 study and apply good nutrition— adele davis books =protein minerals =iron essential fatty acids omega 3 6 9 protein etc
5 ensure your thyroid is working well
6 ensure you do at least I hr per day some kind of voluntary work when you are able..the reasons you are ill , or poor or have allsorts of bad things happen to you is because of karma -----usually from past lives but some from this one –voluntary work will offset your mistakes--- how much it offsets well that is down to god and how much you do. Healing us is in direct proportion to the help we give others ie your healing comes with helping others achieve theirs so if people are doing very little in helping others ---they suffer more and longer...and if they are doing a lot they get well faster....so now you know what to do ,,and like a lot of us are already doing being of service.
7 be amongst people who are giving, friendly who have time for you who love you , choose your friends well
8 be or get to a place which personally love or like
9 get and do some work which you like or love
10 ensure you do no acts which hurt or inflict on anyone –don’t want to add to your karma do we !!!
11 spiritual healing and reiki find good therapists who offer this service in your area
12 think good positive thoughts, laughter, look at comedy, play good uplifting music,
13 avoid at all costs exposure to violence, murders, suffering ,death ,tragedies, -feed upon good things uplifting things, things that feel like a breath of fresh air..
14 Positive affirmation- that’s right programme your self in the mirror , thoughts are things words are things actions are things , all have influence, few people realise these things can have an effect on themselves .
15 a detox ------ toxins can influence how you feel big time
16 hugs get plenty of them in your daily life you would be amazed at how people feel after a few decent hugs…
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17 loads of exercise running walking climbing but something which you enjoy18 rid yourselves of all aspartame laden foods and drink and many additives get back to a wholesome organic diet diet –study and apply good nutrition including water intake
A total cure however is tied up with karma so you can imagine just how important is the voluntary work.
Posted 1 year ago # -
Yes, that is a possibility. In films people with MPD/DID have a number of different personalities but in reality that's not the case. You don't have to have a separate identity with this disorder because after all, you are the host to which these "alters" came from.
When trauma occurs over a long period of time, some people begin to cope by completely disassociating from the events that cause the trauma. Which can lead to “alters,” separate personalities within the same person who either are aware of, or are unaware of the abuse. Since this was your coping device there is a chance that you just imagined yourself as the same person, just with a different age, or job, or residing in a different state.
Epilepsy could cause some of the same signs and symptoms associated with DID but not the alters. (assuming how you found out was from a symptom like loosing time.)
There also is a chance that this is anxiety. People with DID hardly ever know that they have alters until under the care of a psychiatrist.
There's also maladaptive daydreaming which actually fits perfectly with DID symptoms and signs. People who suffer from itimagine themselves with different jobs, looks, attitudes...etc. Everything about them changes-- except their name.
The only difference between people with DID and excessive daydreaming is the excessive daydreamer is aware of it.Here's some links for more information about it:
http://www.scribd.com/doc/9089146/Excessive-daydreaming-A-case-history-and-discussion-of-mind-wandering-and-high-fantasy-proneness
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maladaptive_daydreaming
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