Ive been with my bf for three months now and we talked/dated for about 3 months before that. I have not had sex with him b/c I take things very slow. He is the most amazing guy I've ever met. Awesome personality, very attractive, makes good money, travels everywhere, and spoils me like crazy. Two days ago he told me that he has herpes type 1. When he was married 3 years ago (he's 26 and I'm 20) he went away in the army and his wife slept around with men while he was gone and when he got back she gave it to him which ended in divorce obviously. He said he was waiting for the right time to tell me and wanted me to know before we got serious and started having sex b/c he would never want that to happen to me like his ex wife did him. He says he is on medication and he never has outbreaks or anything. Well, it freaked me out so I broke up with him. Not permanent but I just told him I need time to think. I'm absolutely crazy about this guy and like him ALOT and want to be with him. He has made me constantly happy just being around him and makes me feel like the most important person on earth. I havent talked to him these past two days and its been so hard b/c I miss him like crazy and want to be with him. He's the nicest guy I've ever dated and I know he likes me alot and told me he was planning on marrying me. What should I do?? I want to be with him but I cannot have an std.. Ive only been with 3 people all of which I was in a very serious relationship with and I was always very careful to stay clean. & if we ever did get married I couldn't have kids. I'm so depressed b/c I don't want to let him go :( Advice please?
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Dumping my bf b/c he has an std..Am i wrong? So depressed?
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Posted 2 years ago #
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I'd have done the same thing, honestly. I know it hurts to lose him, but there's no way, under any circumstances, that I'd sleep with a guy with herpes. Just be glad he told you, instead of trying to keep it secret. This same thing happened to my mom (dated a guy, found out he had herpes before they had sex and dumped him). You can still get herpes even if he isn't having an outbreak!!! Try to be just good friends. It'll be hard at first. Can you imagine having to worry every single time you had sex whether that'll be the time you contract the STD?? 30 years into a marriage and you'd still be laying there like "oh god, hope the condom holds!" No way.
Posted 2 years ago # -
The most troubling part of this post, to me, is the fact that he thinks he wants to marry you having only known you for three months. He does realize that marriage is a forever commitment, right? One that is not entered into lightly?
Posted 2 years ago #
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