What can I say?? It is all of you idiot young kids that sleep with all the other young kids who all think that they shouldnt use contraception when you KNEW that they are BOTH sleeping around, I mean in love or not in love YOU KNEW that they are both cheating and sleep around with other girls and you still didnt use contraception. If it was from the guy you been with 7 months than if you are sleeping with the other guy you have a MORAL obligation to tell him the truth so that he and his GF will not contract any diseases from you. USE CONDOMS there is no way to say it twice.. now that you know what happens and that the guy you are sleeping with now could also be a carrier because he also sleeps with many girls.. use them even if you dont feel like using them.. I know you've learned your lesson so dont stuff around with sex like you did in the past. CONDOMS OR NO SEX! there is no other way!!
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He has a girlfriend but sleeps with me, and I think I have an STD?
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Posted 1 year ago #
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Where you would have gotten an std from doesn't really matter. There are a lot of people involved in this (your bf, your ex, his gf, and all of their previous sexual partners). It would be a complete waste of time and frankly it's impossible to tell who gave it to whom. This means you don't owe him an explanation, mainly because you don't have one. It could have been transmitted from anyone at anytime, especially since it can take awhile for symptoms of gonorrhea or chlamydia (or any other std you may potentially have) to appear.
By telling the guy you're seeing, you're not apologizing. You have nothing to apologize for, everyone involved knowingly had unprotected sex, he put himself at as much risk as you did, so please don't feel the need to say you're sorry that he may have an std. Like I said, it's useless to blame someone in a situation like this. Let him know you were tested and found out you have an std (if it turns you you have one). Tell him the chances are he has one as well and that he needs to be tested. If its gonorrhea or chlamydia then its just a matter of getting on medication to get it cured. Just so you know however, chlamydia that isn't treated in women can lead to infertility or pelvic inflammatory disease so its very important that its taken care of.
I understand you're probably worried about how he'll react but the biggest concern is that he goes in for testing. If he refuses to do so then you need to put your health first and not have sex with him again because you can get reinfected. And as unpleasant as it may be, you really should tell his girlfriend for her own safety. When telling him, treat the situation as it is...you have a concern that he might have something and you simply want him to get checked out. Don't make it into a confessional where you feel guilty and miserable because you shouldn't.
I wish you the best of luck, and believe me, you're doing the right think by letting him know he needs to get tested.
Posted 1 year ago # -
The same thing happened to me. I had both and got it from a boyfriend a long time ago but I caught it quickly and cured it so it wasn't a problem. It is very embarrassing but I knew I caught it from him because I would always get myself tested after having a new partner. I even contracted it while wearing a condom so don't always think that works. You need to let both partners know. It's not about who gave it to who, it's about who is going to have the responsibility to fix it. Whenever you get a new sex partner, you should always ask if they've been tested and if they've slept with anyone since they've been tested. At that point you should go together and get tested (before even having sex,) and catch anything before it can become an issue. I wish I had taken my own advice. Good luck and yes you need to tell them.
Posted 1 year ago #
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