Well I guess you give her another chance and stop being so whiny with her...not that it really matters because once you've turned 18 you wont legally be allowed to date her anymore anyway...in most countries at least.
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my girlfriend smoked weed and lied to me?
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Posted 1 year ago #
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'm 17 and she is 14. Friday night she said she was at home and tired. Her new friends who i dislike very much, Post pictures of them hanging out on myspace, and i ask her about it and she lies and says no. I say how do you explain the pictures, and she came clean about it. I asked if she did drugs because i'm very against them and she said no but she was around it. I talk to her for 3 hours about,how hurt i would be if she is lying (which i'm sure she is) She says she wishes she would have stayed home and she continues to lie about smoking weed. So, the next day comes along and we are together. (They stayed the night with her) and i came over after they left. And i confront her about it again and she's like if you don't believe me then go through my phone. So i do and i find a message from
So i do and i find a message from earlier that day. She smoked after i poured my feelings out to her too! Then I'm Like WTF. She starts crying and says she's sorry, that she felt scared and didn't want to be the only one not doing it. But swears she didn't fully inhale. But after i told her how it made me feel the next day she just does it again. I feel betrayed and worthless, How can i trust her
again? She say's she's sorry and she doesn't want to see any kind of drugs again because it reminds her of her past and her dad (He died recently) She says she loves me and wants nothing but me and will do anything to keep me. She told the girls that she didn't want to be friends anymore. But i don't know what to do. I'm trying to forgive her. I love her with all my heart and want to make a family with her. And she says that the only thing she wants is my love. What do i do? Help.Posted 1 year ago # -
It seems to me that your girlfriend is more concerned about getting high than having your trust. The most important thing in a relationship is trust so if she continues to do it and lie to you about it then she doesn't seem like a very good girlfriend and there is no basis there for a good relationship
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Well, you seem like a good person as you are actually trying to make things work. However, if you cannot trust her, you seriously need to talk to her about it (i.e. rough times at home etc). At the end of the day, what kind of girlfriend is a girl that you can't trust? Although if you are really happy with her, you COULD take her word and believe her (that she won't do it again).
Either way, I would suggest talking to her about it, and if she continues to lie, find someone that deserves youPosted 1 year ago # -
You're in a dilemma, clearly. I think you should talk it out with her some more. I mean, she's 14 years old, what does she know? As a matter of fact, I would suggest someone older and more mature. Lie once, you may lie again... so you just never know. Talk it out with her and see where she stands. If the pictures are DATED to the same day you said you were supposed to be with her, then she was lying- but make sure she actually was. Also, someone who uses drugs, cannot always be trusted. So she needs a new set of friends, and someone to guide her into a better life. Maybe you're the one to do that...?
Posted 1 year ago # -
just leave her. If she really loved you she would stop doing what she is doing. try to talk to her she might be hurtning from her fathers death and tring to get a distraction
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I just want to say that wanting to build a family with this girl should be a long term goal. She is only 14...and you will have to wait a few years before you can even legally consider sealing the deal. Relationships at this age should be testing the waters and preparing you for relationships as an adult.
Aside from all that, trust is not something that will ever be easy to gain and even harder to repair once its lost. The actions you are seeking from her are hard on most adults, let alone a 14 year old girl. You are asking her to make adult decisions when she is still a child and I am telling you now...she should still be playing barbies and slowly learning her way through teenagehood. There is nothing wrong with a 3 year gap in age as you get into adulthood but the age of a 14 year old versus a 17 year old is much different. This doesn't mean that I think what you are doing with this girl is wrong but asking her to be more mature is a little ridiculous.
Most teenagers will go through the experimental phase which really is normal, this decision doesn't mean she is going to become a drug addict or a bad person later in life. LOTS of people have experimented with drugs and went on afterwards never touching them again, growing up, and living happy, healthy lives. If you really love this girl you can either get over it and believe her when she says she doesnt want to do it anymore then help her remember her decision from now on or let her go. Those are really your only options. If you can't fully forgive her and are constantly going to throw her bad decision in her face (after you forgive her) then let her go now.
Sorry to sound harsh but that's sometimes what life is like.
FYI, a little weed never killed anybody.
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1. Weed is harmless, at least in moderation. Stop buying into all the fear and get your damn facts straight. It has been proven to do less damage than alcohol or tobacco, it is less addictive than coffee, and in moderation, like any other drug, it is safe. It was only made illegal because large corporations didn't want hemp to be a competition for rope. Really amuses me how non smokers think it's as bad as heroin, and think they know all about it, and how the government and anti-drug organizations demonize it, while they nearly accept alcohol abuse as a virtue.
Some people are just absolutely pathetic.
2. You're 17 and she's 14? Your fault for being in the relationship in the first place.
3. I don't like you.Posted 1 year ago # -
im straight edge and my bf smoked weed, he quit for me because i had asthma, and did it when i wasn't around. but when shes doing it not around you. its none of your concern honestly you need to grow up and realize people are going to do what they want for the slightest chance of pleasure/ happyness. and drugs are what teenagers do. and you need to stop being so controlling and telling her what to do. she can do what she wants. shell end up dumping you if you keep smothering her about her decisions.
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dear acdc105
I know my facts about weed but it's also a gateway drug and the "friends" she was with have friends that do alot of other shit. So don't come at me like i know nothing, I used to smoke weed but quit because it's OVERRATED.
Oh and i don't like you either. So GTFO
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