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my heart is broken and im in agony aaall the time without him. please help :(?

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  1. sandra_panda
    Member

    Honestly, you sound like someone who is overly dependent or possibly co-dependent with this guy. I know this from personal experience that it's not an easy task to be more independent, especially after enjoying the intimacy of codependence, but this is something that will inevitably make you a happier person.

    It's great that you're mindful of your own feelings, especially your paranoia, "clingy"ness, and sense of abandonment. It's important for you to vocalize these feelings for yourself and start some kind of acceptance of what you can change in your life, what behavior you can control in yourself to improve your life as it is now.

    Get interested in other people and stop blaming yourself for his leaving. This is not your fault. This is not his fault. It was just what happened. You can let yourself get over it by simply accepting what is over. The past is in the past. Give yourself some new goals and start concentrating on an acceptable future. Make sure the goals hinge on things that you can control, like stuff that you can actually accomplish with very little help.

    Good luck, and start living again.

    Posted 1 year ago #

  2. Sirronsam
    Member

    I think what you are going through is normal. Any time you've been with someone, it's going to be hard to move on. I think the best thing to do in a situation like this is to;

    1) Pray about it. Ask God to help you in moving on.
    2) When you feel sad about the situation again, immediately try to think about something else, something happy.

    I think that what people have told you is true; it will take time to move on. But you will be fine. Each day in life is a journey, and it's all about putting one foot in front of the other.

    Take care of yourself, and feel free to contact me if you want to talk.

    Posted 1 year ago #

  3. bobbi deena
    Member

    This is TOTALY NORMAL! but at the same time unadvisabl4e. If he dumped you and then got back to you on the same day; you should have taken a minute to think: "he's not intrested in me; should I be upset?" While the answer to that question is technicaly yes you have a right to be devasytated you also owe it to yourself not to put yorself in a situation in wich the love you have for him is constantly overshadowed by fear.

    The people who are telling you to 'give it time' are also part of what is stopping you from walking away from him. Rather than encouraging you to wait for him, they should be reminding you that his intelligence was not great enough to realise what a keeper he had.

    If he was to stupid to realise What a funny great personality you have either because he's a twit (wich is my first guess) or because he has comitment phobia(my second guess) than you should not be wasting your time with him.

    Sug, you shouldn't be hurting over some guy innability to realise he has been sent a gift from the heavens. When you next look at him realise: it is HIS LOSS! He decided to lose intrest in the best damn thing that ever happened to him, and if he ask DO NOT GIVE HIM THE OPORTUNITY TO HURT YOU AGAIN!

    On the other hand getting over something like this is gonna take time and maybe even some help.

    If you need someone to talk to but you are not interested in seeing a shrink; drop me a line (i am a girl in case your wondering) and we can talk stay strong but more importantlyy...

    Believe in better times, Peace!<3 Bobbi Deena!

    P.S. if you feel like self harming: talk to someone who will listen. I am willing to but if you need someone right away find someone! <3
    You dont wanna self-harm over some do-do brained twit.:)

    Posted 1 year ago #

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