I am scared to tell him. Should I not tell him or should I just wait? I don't want him to worry about me. I have been watching the movie a walk to remember a lot lately and I don't want my life to be like that. I am thinking about just not telling him but sooner or later I will be sick from radiation or my hair will fall out from chemo. What do I do?
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Should I tell my boyfriend I have cancer?
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Posted 2 years ago #
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I am really sorry to hear you have cancer, but to keep it from someone who cares for you, perhaps even loves you is the worse thing you can do. Are you afraid that if you tell him, he will leave you? If he does, then he never loved you in the first place. You can't love someone and leave at the first sign of illness. Would you want him to find out once he ask you to marry him? Are you being fair to him? No, you're not. What kind of cancer do you have? You leave a lot of questions to be answered. For instance, Are you and he in love with each other. Life isn't a movie Lexie and you can't base the way you approach this like a movie. Life rarely follows the path of a movie like situation. You have to tell him. If he loves you, you'll know. He will choose to support you, and be there for you when you need him most. that's what love is about. Not just being with someone in the good times, but sharing the bad times as well. You are not only doing him an injustice, but yourself too. You're depriving him of the truth and yourself of someone who you don't trust in your heart enough to tell.
So if you love him and he loves you, the answer is, you have to tell him. Most cancer are curable with early detection and treatments. Not all chemo cause hair to fall out either. You have your answer, now it's up to you to do the right thing. I wish you the best. God blessPosted 2 years ago # -
You'll have to tell him the truth. It's going to be even worse if he finds out on his own..
I'm sorry
Good luck!Posted 2 years ago # -
Hello. I think that if you and him are very close, it would be best to tell him. You don't have to worry about him worrying about you.This is something that will make you feel better. I think he will also be thankful that your truthful with him and that you trust him enough to tell him something this important. Good luck.[=
Posted 2 years ago # -
TELL HIM! just tell him not to worry.
and thats just a movie. :PPosted 2 years ago # -
I think it's very important to share your diagnosis with loved ones. I'm sorry you have cancer. Please stay strong, and let your loved ones be there for you, and help you through this difficult journey. I wish you the best.
Posted 2 years ago # -
YES! If he is a loving and supportive boyfriend, he will be there to help you through everything!
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If you cannot be truthful in a relationship . . than you don't have a relationship. Withholding this information from your boyfriend will only serve to drive a wedge between the two of you. Total honesty is the only way through a serious issue such as this one.
Posted 2 years ago # -
Its best to tell him everything, it will otherwise be difficult for you to cover this up. Also see this link.
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