The most important thing is to find HEALTHY ways to cope with your depression. I recommend prozak. =]. since i started they cant get me off the stuff. i swear by it. lol.
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The dr said I'm having depression. What should I do?
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Posted 2 years ago #
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Firmly resolve now to stop thinking about the person involved. Make yourself exercise, and go out, even if you don't enjoy it, at first: it will provide one way of stopping you from thinking about your present life situation. Understand that memories fade, with the passing of time, and ask yourself where you will be in 5 years time, and 10. Most people go through similar things, though not to the same extent, and it's common for many relationships to begin, and end, especially when younger. Use the following: Technique for Re-Programming Negative Thoughts: When you notice something negative, such as: "I can't do this/ am never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser?" or even an image, emotion, or a memory; recognise that it is being generated from the negative part of your mind. Having identified and labelled it, visualise a large, red, flashing, "STOP!" sign, and/or possibly a stern faced person wagging an index finger at you in a negative manner, then say to yourself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!"
You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick". In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method. It's a good idea to only emotionally invest in a relationship, according to its length of time, and the degree of commitment from BOTH of the people involved. Express your feelings in a letter, and either post it, unaddressed, or have a ceremony, and burn it safely in a metal container, and flush the ashes down the toilet, symbolically ending the relationship, which has zero potential for anything, except causing you further distress. Give time a chance to heal, then open yourself to the possibility of a relationship with someone new. At: http://www.2knowmyself.com you may want to try: "How to get over someone" (top left hand side), or possibly even: http://www.2knowmyself.com/relationship_…
At http://www.wikihow.com enter "breakups" in the searchbar. Try your bookstore, library database, or the searchbar at http://www.amazon.com for: Breaking Up Without Breaking Down by Kristina de la Cal & When It's Over : How to Mend that Broken Heart by Darren G. Burton. Most people are suggestible, to some degree, so you could either seek professional hypnotherapy, or more alternatives along such lines are on the webpage on the subject, at: http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_6.html NeuroLinguistic Programming is another option. Google it. Also see: http://www.breakupgirl.net
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haha, I was about to report the person who responded with a Nike ad to your post.. but you know what, the Nike Ad may just inspire you to go exercise.. which hey.. i've heard of studies that show that simply the pounding of your feet in to the ground as running does for a person, will help relieve anxiety and stress.
You bring up two issues here.. For General Depression: check your nutrition..what are you eating. it makes a big difference.. check your exercise levels.. 20 mins a day? And one of my favorite quotes even though i didn't like the movie from Mis. Congeniality 2. ahh, i don't know the exact quote, but it basically says, that how you can expect somebody else to love you unless you take care of yourself and love yourself first. Personally, that idea really helped me when I am starting to stress about whether or not I am being loved by someone else.
by the way, ,i really feel for you about the experience of him having dinner with someone else.. I used to get really upset about things like that too. and I still have Post-stress trauma flashbacks from previous times. But, I listened to a self-help cd which brought up an interesting point.. and that is .. you have a need for safety, connection, love, affection, trust, reassurance, etc. but you DON'T have to get it from HIM. first.. you need to give it to yourself.. and then as you start to do that, hey, then it will also come from other places too.
but in any relationship stuff, i highly recommend reading a book called: Being Genuine: Stop Being Nice, Start Being Real by Thomas d'Ansembourg.
and the other thing is start looking at your needs.. what needs of yours aren't getting met:
http://www.cnvc.org/en/learn-online/needs-list/needs-inventory
have some compassion for yourself, and look at other strategies that you can meet those needs for yourself in other ways besides HIM.
and perhaps, then look at what needs HE is getting met by eating dinner with somebody else?
heck, maybe even ask him later. after you have looked at your own needs. but hey.. do NOT expect him to get your needs met. that is NOT his responsibility. THAT was a hard lesson for me to learn.. It is my OWN responsibility to get my own needs met. I truly truly hope you have an easier time learning that lesson that I have. I am still have problems learning it. It's just hard to accept sometimes.
remember, you will get through these moments.. and you WILL get to moments that you really will like sometime.. take the time to mourn your loss and then open yourself up to love and peace. good luck.Posted 2 years ago # -
I'm mainly depressed over a love matter. I cant move on when he's already having dinners with someone else. I really need to get back up. i cant?
Posted 2 years ago # -
Your doctor should have given you some anti-depressants. If he doesn't think you are bad enough, you just need to set your mind on something you like, and do it, to preoccupy your mind.
Posted 2 years ago # -
Change diet.
Correct diet is critical to depression cure.
Your food is sugar laced, 50g of sugar plus. Lower sugar intake to 0g.use zink, fish oil and B-complex daily
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