I'm extremly possessive.
I know and understand we own nothing in this world, our body is even lent to us for a certain period of time (while we live this life). I understand we realyl OWN nothing. But i am extremly possessive of people. i want to stop this. hellp
Then stop it. Yahoo answers cant solve every problem in your life, this is one of those problems no one can fix but yourself, but il do my best.
Since childhood i was extremely aggressive and hostile, I would just flip out and kick off; violence was the norm for me and my school. As we all got older the attacks and violence escalated to serious levels.Everything changed for me when i shattered my hand on some lad who jumped me. Explode is a strong word but my pinky knuckle was destroyed. I had supports for weeks and all this in a cast. suddenly i had to stop and think. i couldn't be a hooligan for the rest of my life, because how things were i was either going to prison or be killed.
I never did badly at school; i always tried hard because i hate to loose anything, so i could carry on no problem. I knew i had to change and tried the best i could at the time. I changed friends and just took things easy due to my hand. Then when i came back most of my old friends had been kicked out/ not asked back/ chosen to do something else. I became friends with alot of the arty types, it was really weird but fun. i relished my chance to start again. However my reputation for trouble was hard to shake, costing me many a girlfriend. In the end i just became nice.
I try to be nice everyday, and try to keep calm. i only have three friends from those days left really, everybody else is new. I love my girlfriend and Im on track to be a designer. i still have the scars from back then, but my life is extremely different; all because i had to change.
I don't believe people can change; only bury their floors with reason.
A strong desire to control others comes out of our own insecurities.
This is best addressed with a Counselor who can explain and work with you in the needy areas of your life. Homework will be given to assist you in making lasting readjustments, as the counselor coaches you in your processing and actions.
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