im a 14 yr. old girl and i always seem to be craving attention, especially from guys. Its weird because before highschool started i HATED attention. Now, i love it but i would never act loud or obnoxious to get it. Some days i feel sooo sad because one of my guy friends didn't give me a hug, or maybe someone didn't talk to me as much as the day before. If i get attention from people i feel really really happy, and it feels like im on top of the world. If i don't get alot of attention i feel lonely and sad and i have NO idea why. My parents divorced when i was two but i still see my dad every 2 weeks. My mom was always a good mom, but this past year or so all we do is fight and i can never tell her any of my personal problems because if i do tell her something she tells me to stop complaining or she doesn't care....and seems un interested. When i was in grade 6 7 and 8 all the guys would call me ugly and i was bullied. Now that im in highschool all the guys tell me im pretty ask me to go out with them to the movies and stuff but sometimes i feel like im hideous and i often doubt the compliments people give me. I have really great friends and have one close friend who i can tell anything too. I don't understand why i crave attention and have such a low self esteem? Also when my friends have problems or people i know are upset about something, thats all i can think about and i try my best to help them and be there for them but if there still sad it makes my whole day sad. is this normal?everyone else seems so confident and happy all the time.
@ will click i do read books. loll. but if i feel someone doesn't like me i get really upset. I want to know wtf is wrong with me?
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why do i crave attention? is this normal?
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Posted 2 years ago #
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You should start reading books. It makes life seem more interesting without the need to make your own fun by the means of attention.
Posted 2 years ago # -
Hey y'all!
I used to have a similar issue and I brought it down to one thing...You gotta act out! If you want attention girl you gotta earn it! So you know hit someone or have sex with a teacher, that'll get you in the spotlight ;].Posted 2 years ago # -
Hiya after reading your story it sounds to me it could be your trying to get attention from people and it makes you feel good because you are insecure, it could stem from when yr parents split or as you was saying people called you names at the old school now you have moved up to high school kid's are more grown up, plus your at the age where your hormones are all over the place, it's a long list of thing's that you should try to talk to someone about.
I'm sorry if i wasn't very helpful
Hope things sort them-self's outPosted 2 years ago # -
Well, you probably hated the attention from middle school because it was all negative attention. Now that you're in high school, your getting positive attention. And you may crave the attention even more so since your hesitant to trust the compliments. That's understandable since it's a complete 180 from what you're used to. You can't help but wonder if it's a trap and that they're just trying a new, more elaborate way of humiliating you. Also, since you love helping people, you may feel guilty about feeling so good about your compliments so you want your friends to feel as good as you do.
I have a problem with trusting complements too, but I don't know why. I don't remember ever getting bullied exactly, so I don't know what keeps me from trusting them. And for me, it was pretty much the opposite; in that I was really hyper and the class clown ever since elementary school. But around junior high I starting hating being the center of attention. Actually, I was afraid of it, and I ended up being a loner through my second half of high school. But this was partially due to my social anxiety disorder.
I believe you when you say you have a good mom. But since she tells you that she doesn't care about your problems, it doesn't make her sound like a good mom. But I'm not going to judge her, because I don't really know your relationship with her. I don't believe she really means it when she says she doesn't care. I'm sure you've said those words and didn't really mean them. People tend to use the words when they're not in the mood to deal with it and get annoyed. She might not realize that when it comes from a parent, it can mean more. And if she's a single parent, she's more likely to get frustrated more easily. I just think you should have someone that will listen. Have you tried talking to your dad? And you could always talk to the Boy's and Girl's Town national hotline. They talk you through problems both big and small.
But to answer your question, yes it is normal. I'm sure there are other girls, or even guys, that feel the same way. And everyone has low self-esteem at that age. Some are just better at hiding that than others. There's nothing wrong with you and everyone wants to be liked. You just have a hard time believing it, because of the assholes from middle school. I hope I helped and I hope things work out. Chin up. :)
Best Wishes
--JoshPosted 2 years ago #
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